tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-199273813500503880.comments2014-01-17T14:05:52.438-08:00My Widows WebDonna Thackerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06255640442862265834noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-199273813500503880.post-83421141100979920982014-01-17T14:05:52.438-08:002014-01-17T14:05:52.438-08:00i don't remember exactly how long it was befor...i don't remember exactly how long it was before I took off my wedding rings. A friend told me I would just know when that time came. She was right. When I did take them off I was at peace knowing it was right. A very smart person told me to give the grief two years. It has been two years and it is better, but life will never be the same only different.Yardfrannyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03943263544892989908noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-199273813500503880.post-46128438614109083952010-12-03T08:27:58.280-08:002010-12-03T08:27:58.280-08:00I am enjoying reading your blog also. I know how ...I am enjoying reading your blog also. I know how Christmas was hard on me also last year. I am trying very hard to make this Christmas better. The Grandkids has been my support. We have decorated my home this year and are Remembering Chuck now with joyous memories and I feel his memory is now being represented with smiles, more than tears. And I know that is what he would have wanted. It is bad enough the Grandkids lost their PAPAW they didn't want to loose their MEMAW to despair.<br /><br />My website is awidowsmemoirs.com if anyone would like even some more support.belindahttp://awidowsmemoirs.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-199273813500503880.post-25420751938907837782010-03-24T00:09:35.561-07:002010-03-24T00:09:35.561-07:00Just found your blog,Donna. Thank you for your co...Just found your blog,Donna. Thank you for your courage and generosity in sharing your grief journey. I lost my husband to liver disease on Nov 19/09, just 6 weeks after receiving the diagnosis. I cry every day still, but am starting to find some little pleasures in life again, especially my beautiful, 7 month old granddaughter. I had to move just after RJ died, but found a condo in my daughter's building, a real blessing. I'm also "trying to make the best of it". I've started tutoring again (retired from classroom teaching 4 years ago), and my teaching hours are the only waking times that I'm consciously aware that my sweet RJ is gone forever. I'm still struggling to get my heart and head working together - i know in my head that RJ is gone, but my heart is not ready to acknowledge this loss, and the grief surges still take my breath away, make my legs turn to jelly, and bring instant tears. It helps to know I'm not alone. Thank you.Gail in Vancouvernoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-199273813500503880.post-66836554702213599412010-01-12T20:41:09.140-08:002010-01-12T20:41:09.140-08:00Anonymous,
Thank you for posting. Yes I am still p...Anonymous,<br />Thank you for posting. Yes I am still posting in this blog. Sometimes it takes me awhile to get back to it. I just recently posted a Valentines poem dedicated to my one true love. Please feel free to read whatever you like and check nack for new posts.Donna Thackerhttp://www.mywidowsweb.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-199273813500503880.post-80762238498680648632010-01-12T19:27:00.182-08:002010-01-12T19:27:00.182-08:00I recently discovered your blog. Are you still wri...I recently discovered your blog. Are you still writing?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-199273813500503880.post-65999837758390204762010-01-07T08:33:49.605-08:002010-01-07T08:33:49.605-08:00Hmmm, I don't know what Mr. Edelstien was tryi...Hmmm, I don't know what Mr. Edelstien was trying to say and his Blogger profile page is more of the same. He has 107 profile hits, so maybe someone else reads code!Donna Thackerhttp://www.mywidowsweb.blodspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-199273813500503880.post-20501724890365884352010-01-01T13:17:08.080-08:002010-01-01T13:17:08.080-08:00How I wish there were a magic potion to make it al...How I wish there were a magic potion to make it all better, but I know that can't be. This was a wondeful post, and to me, I can see some healing it in. <br /><br />While I haven't lost a loved one, I've spent the better part of this year mourning the loss of some of my body parts, it's a long story. While its very different than the heartache and grief that you are dealing with, on some small level, I can relate to your words here. I just wanted to thank you for opening your heart up like this, espesially while you are so vulnerable, and hurting so much. You may not realize it, but you are actually helping others to come to term with their pain too. You should feel proud of that..<br /><br />I have a friend, my age, who recently lost her husband. I'm going to share your blog with her, and hope that it can give her some comfort..teri shttp://myblip.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-199273813500503880.post-56589057501506762622009-12-14T21:06:37.956-08:002009-12-14T21:06:37.956-08:00The blogosphere is huge and there will be many peo...The blogosphere is huge and there will be many people who will become your friends, and want to read and interact with you. I'm sure that it seems beside the point right now, but when you feel up to it, you should do some blog promotion. Found you through the Accentuate forum. <br /><br />Best!Sharkbyteshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10139935335209860357noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-199273813500503880.post-69549986660130945662009-12-13T20:45:57.431-08:002009-12-13T20:45:57.431-08:00Donna, Since your blog is the very first I felt th...Donna, Since your blog is the very first I felt the need to post a comment on, I just signed up in order to be able to post my comment for you. That said, I'm not sure how to give you and only you my e-mail address. If you could let me know how I can do that I'd be honored to have someone who is striving to cope with this new life neither of us asked for somehow through the positive. <br /><br />Thank you for your comment about my loss and I too am sorry for yours. I still run into people that say that I haven't seen since it happened and as I bet you know, sometimes it's hard to say "thank you" when your guts are screaming "ME TOO!" <br /><br />I'll check back in the morning to see if you can let me know about getting an e-mail dialog going. From the time of the comments I think your a couple time zones behind me. <br /><br />Thank you again for starting this blog. Your husband's very proud of you and who knows, maybe he and my husband are hanging out. I wish you a restful night's sleep:)<br />LAOLAOhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10159188484646152861noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-199273813500503880.post-89520199694181585072009-12-13T20:15:15.515-08:002009-12-13T20:15:15.515-08:00LAO, If you stop back by, Thank you so much for yo...LAO, If you stop back by, Thank you so much for your beautiful comment. This is exactly why I started this blog and called it My Widows Web. I hoped to reach out in my grief and possibly touch someone else going through the same thing. Just knowing there is someone out there going through this and needing the comfort is a comfort to me.<br /><br />I am so sorry for the loss of your husband. I know you feel lost, lonely and conffused, because I feel the same way. I wish you would have left some way to contact you directly, so I hope you stop back by and read this. Leave a contact email or something and if you ever need to talk...I am here.<br />DonnaDonna Thackerhttp://www.mywidowsweb.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-199273813500503880.post-29659162221938963512009-12-13T19:23:30.531-08:002009-12-13T19:23:30.531-08:00Donna,
Thank you for your words. I read everything...Donna,<br />Thank you for your words. I read everything you've written on this blog last night. On Dec 11th it's been 7 months since my husband crossed over. All the points that you made rang true for me. Doing something he'd be proud of you for is what helps me get out of bed everyday. He was an artist and a lead guitar player. I decided shortly after I lost him that both a book of his artwork and a Music tribute dvd would need to be created for our families and close friends. I'm working on both of those projects even though it's with baby steps. Your words do a wonderful job of showing how your husbade made you feel both loved and special. The issues, (for lack of a better word) that your forced to face as a new widow are not easy to describe to anyone who isn't but your words helped me get through a rough night. His birthday is next week. A day although not far from Christmas, I always tried to treat like a big deal seperate event. I dread all the key dates of the life we shared. I'm happy you found a way to smile. The sincere smiles are hard to find. Your garden sounds lovely. Shoryly after my husband crossed over I tried to find a blog about this subject that might help me with my grief and couldn't find one that I could relate to. I'm not sure why I decided to look again last night but I'm thankful your words are out there.<br />LAOLAOhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10159188484646152861noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-199273813500503880.post-63196815696155501502009-12-12T09:17:15.094-08:002009-12-12T09:17:15.094-08:00It's the little things, Donna. So glad you wer...It's the little things, Donna. So glad you were able to think of a happier time and smile. hugs!<br /><br />TeriTeri S.http://myblip.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-199273813500503880.post-74457459589651529662009-10-30T10:45:53.480-07:002009-10-30T10:45:53.480-07:00Donna,
This was beautiful - it really touched me. ...Donna,<br />This was beautiful - it really touched me. Your husband was a lucky man to have such a loving wife while he was still here on this Earth. I hope November will be a little easier for you..<br /><br />TeriAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-199273813500503880.post-82829412662542141522009-10-14T10:18:40.825-07:002009-10-14T10:18:40.825-07:00I can't imagine how awful it would be to lose ...I can't imagine how awful it would be to lose my husband. If it were me, I'm sure I'd be just like you, that wedding ring welded to my finger. I hope that you are able to find some peace through writing, and in sharing your feelings, knowing that you are not only helping yourself, but others in the same situation as you. Best of luck to you.<br /><br />Teri S.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-199273813500503880.post-87499793975115710932009-10-03T17:01:58.014-07:002009-10-03T17:01:58.014-07:00I agree. My dad wore his ring for 13 years after m...I agree. My dad wore his ring for 13 years after my mom died and would still wear it if he didn't have health issues now.<br /><br />No one should dictate to you when and how you feel or do something.<br /><br />Take care of yourself.Rissahttp://www.rissawatkins.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-199273813500503880.post-75073839045593490142009-09-28T10:52:21.920-07:002009-09-28T10:52:21.920-07:00Just figuring out how this worksJust figuring out how this worksDonna Thackerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06255640442862265834noreply@blogger.com