Monday, September 28, 2009

Some Articles That May Help

In my first post I stated that I had turned to writing as a sort of solace after my husband died. Continuing to do something you are good at and that you enjoy is actually good therapy. if it is also something your husband was extremely proud of, it will make you feel even better to continue it.

In fact, I still speak to my husband about what I am writing. (It really is okay if you talk to them.) The articles I wrote for Associated Content deal a lot with the illness and different ways I handled things. Were they hard to write? You bet! Tears streamed the entire time I typed, yet the articles somehow made me feel better.

My husband was all about helping whoever he could, and I know he would have wanted me to use my words and experience to help someone else. I had no one with experience to help me figure out how to tackle many of the issues I faced as a new Widow. That is why I decided to write about it.

I am just learning this blogging and linking, so bear with me as I try to figure out how to put in some smooth links for some of the articles that might be helpful to you.

http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/2203889/things_every_new_widow_should_know.html?cat=7

http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/1982952/are_there_defined_stages_of_grief.html?cat=5

I realize that these are pitiful attempts at links, but I hope you can get there from these, as I believe these articles may help out a bit.

As I continue my journey through this new life, I will update you on my progress, and even my set backs. I hope you do the same by leaving comments or questions. Let's help each other...

Donna Thacker

Sunday, September 27, 2009

My Journey, My New Life

Suddenly finding yourself a new widow is a devastating thing. You go through so many emotions you aren't sure what you feel. You feel lost, alone, afraid, angry, hurt...all of this rolled into one. You don't lnow where to turn, you don't know how to go on with life, such as it is.

I know, because I am a new widow. It has been 5 months since I lost my husband and the pain is still as great as the first day. I felt like I had no where to turn either, so I turned to the only thing I know...writing. He was very proud of my articles, and read everything I wrote.

I have recently been working on articles about medical issues and some of the things I have had to deal with as this new "widow." I write these things as a way to feel close to my husband, and as a way to help others that are going through this turmoil.

My hope, by starting this blog, is that other widows will find me and that we can perhaps help each other as we journey forth into this new life we neither asked for nor wanted. It doesn't matter if you are a new widow, or it has been years, the pain and loneliness are still heavy on your heart.

The process is overwhelming and you just can't do it alone. Perhaps we can all help each other and make it just a little easier, as our journey continues through life.