I happened across a Widow’s group on Facebook one
night. I was feeling especially lonely and figured I’d check them out. It’s one
of the best things I have ever done, because nobody understands exactly how you
feel when you lose a loved one like someone who has been through it.
This group is in various stages of dealing with their
grief. Some have not been widows for very long…some have been widows for years,
much like me. Belonging to a group like this on the internet means that there
is someone always there to talk to, no matter what time of the day or night you
feel the need to log on.
In this group, you can express your sadness, your
anger, your frustration or whatever else you need to say without being judged.
No one tells you to “just deal with it” because they understand.
It’s not a “pity party” group. We help each other with
things that are new to us. Out of all the members, usually someone has dealt
with one circumstance or another and can give advice. We even tell each other
how to make household or automotive repairs!
Widows often feel like they are alone and struggling.
Joining a group of other widows helps us to feel…well, not so alone. We can ask
questions about all the many things a widow faces as she makes this new lonely
walk. Trust me, it helps.
If you are a new widow, or even a long time widow, I
would recommend joining a group on Facebook. You may even find another widow
that lives close enough so that the two of you (or three or four) can get
together for lunch, dinner or any other kind of outing you all enjoy.
We even call it a “Sisterhood” of sorts and we all
understand that none of us really want to be a part of a Widow’s group, but it’s
the hand we have been dealt. Trust me, the women in my group are pretty awesome
and we sure have gotten each other over some tough hurdles.
The admin is pretty strict about who she lets in, as
we all know that widows get preyed on by some unscrupulous folks, so you can
feel pretty safe, in my group at least. If you are a Widow and are interested
in the group I am in, find me on Facebook and let me know and I will pass your
info along to the admin of the group.
